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Upcoming Events

  • Open Loops NYC

    9.17 7:00-9:00PM
    Le Petit Monstre

    A live philosophy salon in New York, where conversation and connection meet to spark curiosity and depth. Expect an evening of ideas, dialogue, and the unexpected.

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  • Open Loops Virtual

    9.23 7:30-9:00PM
    The Virtual Salon

    Join the global salon from anywhere: a guided exploration with essays, prompts, and live discussion designed to bring relational philosophy into your everyday life.

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  • The Stories We Carry

    10.9 7:30-9:00PM
    Flower Cat NYC

    An intimate gathering where we reflect on the narratives that shape us, uncover what no longer serves, and imagine new ways of being in relationship with ourselves and each other.

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I’m Aubrey Aust, an educator, facilitator, and MA Candidate at NYU studying relational psychology and philosophy.

My work sits at the intersection of psychology, theory, and the nervous system.

We aren’t taught how to express, let alone identify, what we need relationally. Through live workshops, online resources, and immersive experiences, I help people discover and explore the language of authentic connection to create the safety, depth, and fulfillment we crave in our interpersonal relationships.

A young woman with long wavy red hair, wearing a black crop top, gold jewelry, and tattoos on her arms, standing against a plain light gray background.

Learn more about me here.

I am interested in improving my relationship(s) with…

Partners

Love is not just a feeling — it’s a skill that can be practiced. Explore ideas on communication, conflict, and building safety in intimate relationships here.

Community

From chosen family to everyday networks, communities shape our relational lives. Explore the psychology of belonging, visibility, and collective connection here.

Myself

The relationship with self shapes every other connection. Find reflections and practices for cultivating self-awareness and understanding here.

Office Hours

Anonymous submissions. Authentic answers. Read and submit here.

Ways to Work With Me

  • Step into the room with me. From salons to workshops, I design gatherings where we explore intimacy, identity, and connection through conversation and practice. Come to the academic salon, Open Loops, or join me for an IRL look at attachment and relational patterns at The Stories We Carry.

  • Personalized support for individuals, couples, or leaders looking to explore deeper, more aligned connection. Learn more here.

  • How we work matters as much as what we work on. I design team experiences that bring relational psychology into the workplace, helping groups practice communication, build trust, and create psychological safety. These sessions are about cultivating the kind of culture where people feel seen, supported, and connected to their purpose. Learn more about How We Work here.

  • I create accessible resources on relationships, desire, and regulation: articles, videos, and courses that blend psychology, philosophy, and lived experience. These offerings give you frameworks to reflect, practice, and grow at your own pace. Find me on Instagram, YouTube, or read my articles on my blog.